Power exchange is at the core of most BDSM (kinky) relationships. Many men seek relationships that can safely (without personal threat) transfer power from them to a woman. However, as Ms Martin points out, there is a vast difference from a Mistress and a Bitch. This book explores those differences while it also outlines steps a man can take to re-shape himself in ways that will be more appealing to a woman who is, in her own right, seeking a submissive man.
There is another advantage to this book: Ms Martin points out that people who fill out lists of kinky activities that may or may not interest them rather limit their playing field. I'll leave it to you to buy the book and read this section on your own, but I assuure you that despite extensive reading in this field, I have never before seen such a compelling reason to re-think the process of identifying common play areas with a potential play partner. Very creative and useful
--Bill Cunningham
This is my first review of a book. In thinking about how I would start, I found myself thinking about the author, that I would describe her as caring, intelligent, thoughtful! one of the sharpest tacks in the box, and funny! I recommend anyone looking for a mistress put themselves in her hands, throw themselves into the book, follow her instructions, do as this mistress says. It will help me (your future mistresses) notice you and see your attractive qualities! While I bought the book to learn what her advice was to men, I found myself engrossed, and learning how to be a more discerning person. She gives us all utter permission to be our better selves and have more satisfaction from it. What a fabulous book!
--Kunda Lee Wicce
What I liked so much about this book was how Karen Martin encourages her readers to seek out healthy, nourishing, real-life D/s relationships. She helps submissives recognize their own strengths and gives them realistic guidelines for communicating what they can offer to a potential mistress. Another bonus is that Martin addresses polyamorous D/s relationships, how to share, and what it takes for low and high protocol mistresses, slaves, and masters to live together in one household. I thought this book was such an excellent, intelligent approach to BDSM in general that I loaned it to my open-minded but non-kinky therapist to help her learn more about my lifestyle!
--J. Rich
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